It has been very interesting because as I have parented two kids to their teens, I have gone from being a more authoritarian rider, a little more forceful and determined to get my way NOW, to a more authoritative rider. I have a clear idea of what I want but I am much more open to different ways of getting to the end goal. A little more subtle, open to thinking about where I as a rider am going wrong, using different ideas and techniques, and I would say having kids has a lot to do with that change. After trying gazillion different things to get a kid to the desired outcome, including everything from out and out bribery to unpleasant consequences, horse training seems pretty simple. And the horses don't talk back...
Friday, December 18, 2015
Horse Training Is a Lot Like Parenting
Sort of the inverse of this photo, but I really have found it to be true that horse training is a lot like parenting and that parenting has really improved my horse training. For me, parenting has always been about abundant love and affection but also definite boundaries and emphasis on hard work and effort. Authoritative without being authoritarian. I always tell my kids I hope we are friends when they are older but my job now is to be the parent and push them to do all the things they are truly capable of achieving. Sometimes it will be a little unpleasant for them or uncomfortable, but the end outcome will be good. Really.